Grow up already!

Lastnight I was thinking about how people grow up. When you live in a family and have siblings, eventually you leave that situation and find yourself in another. That brother or sister that you used to know very intimately in your childhood eventually becomes a stranger to you. You find yourself a mate, your sibling finds a mate, and you live with your mate and on occasion meet up with your sibling. Your mate will come to know you more intimately that your sibling did. Depending on what type of relationship you have with your family after you've been married, etc... you may never see or hear from your sibling ever again. You may never be that intimate with them ever again, you lost that bond that you had when you were young. Isn't that depressing? My sister has been telling me for the past 4-5yrs that I don't know her anymore. And I suppose I don't. She doesn't exactly let me know her, and the person she's become is not someone I would exactly like to hang out with. She defines herself by her boyfriend. Do I define myself by my boyfriend? I think David and I have alot in common and we are each other's best friend... but I can be a seperate entity and have a seperate existance from him. I don't think that Nikki can have a seperate existance from her boyfriend. She seems to want to be attached to the hip. For this upcoming Thanksgiving she doesn't want to come home on Thursday because Chris has to stay in Hilo. She says he's going to be all alone in their apartment and she doesn't want him to feel lonely. Well for one she choose him over her family (:P), but the main point I have is that if she can't live seperately from him then she is doomed. Honestly. And I don't think that Chris would seriously have a breakdown from being apart from Nikki for one day - she's the one who sounds like it is an issue. If it were me I wouldn't be too hesitant to leave David because I know that I am going to see him after a short while. It's not like I am being seperated from him indefinately. I know that David can function without me, I think he actually enjoys being a loner sometimes. Yah, sure, I do too, just like everyone else. But in a classroom setting, when I am on the other side of the class as David, I notice that he isn't very talkative. Whereas I am quite talkative and the people around me become super friendly. :) [If you knew me in HS I was much more like David, so I know it sounds odd to hear about me as a super talkative and friendly person] Hmm. Well because of Nikki's insistance to be Chris's right arm, my family is going to come here to Hilo from Kona for Thanksgiving. Not a big deal.. but I think Nikki is being too much of a baby. She has to learn to live without Chris! Just because they were HS sweethearts doesn't mean they are very likely to last. Actually David and I aren't HS sweethearts. We did meet in HS, we did express emotional interests in each other, but nothing super serious happened between us until after the both of us had graduated from HS and began new lives. Nikki tells me that she wants to be married and having kids by the time she is 21.... (sounds like Britney Spears...) She thinks that her goal is to be married and have kids. What a sad kid.... :( I can no longer make any difference in her life. I don't know who she is anymore, she has enacted her own self-fulfilling prophecy. I wish her luck...